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  • Hi! I’m Amber.

    I love Jesus. I'm a wife to Steve, Mama to Reid, Eli and Henry. We are on a journey to find our baby girl through adoption. Before kiddos, I was a photographer, now I am a Young Living independent distributor. Welcome to a snippet of my life. :)

Fresh Air

 

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As I sit here on my cold driveway watching my boys explore and play in the ditch out front, I can’t help but be thankful for the hints of spring. I hear birds singing. I smell the fresh crisp air. I feel the warmth of the sun that is moving closer to us every day. I am very thankful for the ability to let our boys explore on our quiet, private road. I am thankful for my hard working husband and that his hard work allows me to be at home caring for our sons. As I wait for our daughter to come home, I pray for her Mama that is carrying her, whom we will hopefully meet soon. I pray that she is safe and loved and knows that we love her even now. I can’t wait to see what the next season brings and how it will change all of our hearts, just as I have seen with other adoptive families. For now we wait and hope for what is to come…kind of like the transition from winter to spring. Thank you Lord for this reminder in a season that feels overwhelming, tiring and full of LOTS of tasks. Thank you for endurance and strength that you have given to us.

Updates…

  So, I think Instagram has officially eaten my blog. With most days occupied with adoption papers and the busyness of three little men, the thought of sitting down to write on the blog was tiring 😜 So here we go. There is probably a lot more that I could write but I will  start with answering some of the recent frequently asked questions  🙂

Are you matched with an expectant mom?Not yet. We started seeing situations this week and will continue to pray that we know which expectant moms to present to. So far we have seen one situation and didn’t feel peace about presenting. 

What is presenting? Presenting is when we see an expectant mom’s information and hopes in an adoptive family and then decide if we are going to show our profile book to her to be considered as the adoptive family for her baby.  

 How much money do you have saved/or have you raised? We currently have  about $8,000 and if all $2500 is raised for our matching grant we will have about $13,000. We are still waiting to hear back about several grants that we applied for.   

Where are you adopting from? We are pursuing a domestic adoption and will most likely adopt in Florida.  

 Why are you adopting? We are adopting because we want a daughter to love and we are unable to have any more biological children because of difficult pregnancies and deliveries.  

 

Fundraiser Time!

FINAL FLYER

 

Steve & I are so excited that the day to start our fundraiser has finally come! On April 2nd we had dinner with friends who want to help us with fundraising. We talked about the timing of a BIG fundraiser,  different kinds of fundraisers we could do, bake sales, auction, dinner etc. It was a great time getting to know them better while we talked about adoption. As I was nursing Henry to sleep soon after they left,  I did what I normally do after brainstorming….I researched and looked for more fundraising ideas and I don’t think that it is by chance that I found an awesome idea from this blog www.beingmrsmurray.com/help-us-adopt/

The concept is pretty simple: 1,000 people donating $30 to raise $30,000 in 30 days. I was SOOOO excited to go downstairs and share what I had found with Steve and my parents. We do not know what the final cost of our adoption will be since we are not matched yet, but $30,000 is a pretty average number. We felt that we should continue to save, fundraise and apply for grants before we started being presented to birth mothers. We would have a hard time emotionally, if we connected with a birth mom and were unable to accept the match due to fees that have to be paid when we are matched.

In the past couple of weeks I have been working hard on designing a flyer, setting up an account with Adopt Together so that any gifts given can be tax deductible, writing a letter to share our story on Adopt Together, and lastly…printing  out the flyers. If I’m honest this has been harder than I thought it would be. We decided to print the flyers at home to save money…but boy the printers are giving us a hard time! This has been the biggest frustration. Mom and I are VERY happy that we have a bunch printed and found the best way to get the job done. The boys have been helping us print and cut the flyers and even though they don’t fully understand what is going on because they are so young, they have been excited to help us and watch me design the flyer.

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We are so grateful for the friends and family who have already donated to help us get this adoption rolling and we are excited to finally share what is going on here for fundraising as I know some of you have been asking for details.

We are so thankful for your support…Any amount that you can give, $30, $10, $5, $1 will help and be greatly appreciated. If you are unable to help financially would you be willing to share our story?  Anything you are willing to do will help bring a baby girl to her forever family…After all this fundraiser is for Nora, not for us. To donate visit: www.adopttogether.org/martinadoption  between April 18th-May 17th. I will make sure to update throughout this next month.

Here is a breakdown of what we have already paid for with our savings and donations we have received:

Christian Adoption Consultants: $2,680.00

The home study $2,030.24

In person and online training: $400

Criminal background checks: $60

Child abuse background checks: $30

Driving record checks: $20.00

Here is what is left to pay for:

Agency application fees: varies

Birth parent’s living expenses: varies

Legal fees: varies

Agency fees: varies

ICPC-Interstate Compact for the Placement of Children (states talking to each other about baby): varies

Travel to pick Nora up:

A place to stay while we wait for the ICPC : up to two weeks

Your prayers for our family, Nora’s birth mother and Nora are appreciated as we start the next step in our adoption journey.

Steve, Amber, Reid, Eli and Henry

Saving for Nora

The other night Steve and I were talking about how some day we can tell Nora about how many funny things we did to save money to adopt her. So I figured I should make a list of the things we have sold or done to share with you all… 🙂

Ceiling fan

Patio table & benches

Stroller

Bottle returns

Racing helmet

a bajillion (feels that way) iphone repairs

Superhero capes made by my Mom

Handmade dolls made by my Mom

A guitar amp cover

Making our own food  (salsa, spaghetti sauce etc)

Making our own hair products

Adding spare change to the “sister jar

Rebate from Toyota for some settlement thing

Old dishwasher

Photo Mat cutter….

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I just set aside a pile of things in the basement to sell and add to the adoption fund. So we can add to the list above:

cloth diapers

ninja blender

high chair

studio photography lighting

Nintendo DS XLi

and I’m sure there is some more too:)

It’s fun to get rid of things to free up space but it’s more fun to think that those things will help bring our baby girl home!

 

 

 

 

Exciting!

Woohoo!! Our home study was finished on April 3rd! We are very excited to have the paper work for this part of our adoption done. So we are officially seen as competent adoptive parents! We both felt that we need to save some more money and fundraise before we start showing our profile to birth moms. So be on the lookout for our fundraiser in the next couple of weeks! We are still working on finishing the paperwork for the adoption grant and adoption loan applications and hope to get those done soon. It’s a lot of work to compile the information that they need, but we are picking away it.

In the mean time, keep praying for us as we step into the next part of our adoption and pray for Nora and her birth mom too.  Who knows…she could be growing in her mommy’s womb right now….

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