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  • Hi! I’m Amber.

    I love Jesus. I'm a wife to Steve, Mama to Reid, Eli and Henry. I'm also a photographer. We just started the adoption process to find our baby girl. Welcome to a snippet of my life. :)

Home study, research and grants and a whole lot of love

At the end of January, we finished our interviews for our home study. To review, the home study is a REALLY big stack of papers that tell adoption agencies or attorneys that we are approved as adoptive parents. Anything you would ever want to know about Steve or myself is contained in that bundle of papers:)During February our caseworker, Penny, worked on writing up the home study and compiling information. The home study was sent in to be reviewed and approved on March 1st.

While we are waiting to hear about our home study, which feels like FOREVER, we are working on filling out applications for grants. There are a lot of grants available to adoptive families and are granted in 2 ways:

1. A grant that is given in the amount of $100-$15,000 or more

2. A matching grant where the organization will match what money is donated or given to us for our adoption up to a predetermined amount.

This is another part of the adoption process that uses up a lot of paper…I mean A LOT!! We are really thankful that these organizations exist to make adoption a more attainable thing to normal families with normal amounts of money. Of course we know that God is really the one who will supply what we need on this path to find Nora.

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We are also figuring out what agencies we want to work with, pray that we will have clarity when we are researching, again we are thankful for our consultant Leah and Christian Adoption Consultants for the wisdom they offer in this area. They have supplied us with a list of trusted and ethical agencies and attorneys to work with and Leah can help us navigate the best approach. We will choose multiple agencies to present to which can help cut the wait time down.

Leah worked really hard on creating a profile book about our family while we were in the interview process for the home study. This book will be shown to birth moms with the agencies we choose to work with. It’s a really complete picture of what our story is and what life is like in our family. I think I had a HUGE smile on my face when she sent the first draft to us….it’s beautiful and something I will always cherish.

Reid has really fallen in love with his little sister even more since we finished painting her room. It was so nice to finally paint the room as it still kind of felt like the previous owners house in that room:)The boys love to play in there and talk about Nora.

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While we were out grocery shopping the other day Reid found the perfect dress to buy with money from his piggy bank for Nora. He has had his eye on any dress with a tutu for about a month or so, and we finally found the right one in the right price point. He bought her this beautiful, very girly, dress for $3 He was beaming for hours after that. We got back to Mormor & Papa G’s house and Reid could not wait to show Papa G what he bought for Nora. He ran to the play room and said “Look what I got Papa G! Remember, I’m going to have a little sister?!?! Well I got her this dress!!” He showed the dress to Steve with the same excitement.:)

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Not all parts of this adoption have been easy. Steve and I are learning a lot about patience, trust and patience and trust and more trust….It’s a really stretching time emotionally, but I’m thankful that we are being asked to grow in this way. This song really spoke to our hearts in a big way. Search for “It is well” by Bethel music on youtube, it won’t be wasted time.

“Far be it from me to not believe. Even when my eyes can’t see. 

And this mountain that’s in front of me will be thrown into the midst of the sea. 

Through it all, through it all, My eyes are on You. Through it all, through it all, It is well.

 So let go my soul and trust in Him. The waves and wind still know His name.”

While working on the applications for grants we are also going to organize a fundraiser that will happen at our church. I’m thinking it may have something to do with pancakes….but we will keep you informed. I really wish I was more consistent at blogging to keep you all in the loop, but life with three boys is….well…..pretty crazy. So I will try to update again soon but until then, we just would ask that you would join us in praying for wisdom and peace for our family and also for Nora and her birth mom. Pray for peace, safety and that if her birth mom does not know Jesus that she may know him through this process. It’s quite amazing that we Martins love people we don’t even know yet, much like when you’re pregnant with a biological baby...I don’t know about Steve…but I feel like am “paper pregnant” a common expression in adoption.:)

Lately

I keep finding reasons or excuses to not blog lately, so I figure something is better than nothing. So get ready for a few random things and thoughts……

 

In exciting news, I found the perfect crib for Nora, for free! on Craigslist! The only hurdle was that it was found on the North Shore of Boston. Thankfully, I have a lovely “cousin” who lives in Boston and went on a little drive to pick up the crib for me. The crib arrived and I LOVE IT! THANK YOU KRISTIN!!!!

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Reid has been super sweet about Nora lately. He thinks about her often.  When he saw the crib he said that he will put his hands inside the crib through the side and say hi to Nora and if he put his foot in then she could tickle him. He melts my heart. Strangely enough Eli and Henry just want to sleep or jump in the crib:)

 

We completed our home study paper work and mailed it in December 6th. The past few weeks have been strangely busy and it felt like the last few details were taking forever to finish. I have to keep reminding myself that God is guiding the time line of our adoption and not me…I need to chill out. So that is what I have done….well mostly.

 

DECEMBER 6th: We finally got the last details of the home study packet finished this morning. I went over the check list while Steve made a FaceTime call to Papa & Mimi with the boys. I had done everything but bring out our birth certificates and marriage certificate. I printed those out and checked the list again. It was complete and ready to send. I think I felt more excited than nervous, but nerves were there as well. Probably more for a silly reason than for anything serious.:)It felt scary to send in personal information and the $1,200 check. I prayed that God would provide the rest of the money we need and to help me relax. WE all hopped into the car in the ice and snow and headed to the post office in Gray. On the way over I told Reid that we were mailing out important papers, we explained that it was one of the important steps to get Nora home but that we still has a lot more work to do. He said ok and kinda seemed like he understood. I went in and Steve stayed with the boys. When I came back out and we were backing out of the post office Reid said, “Ok so now we will go to the hospbubble.” We asked him why and he said, ” I thought we could go and get Nora now.” Oh that boy, he melted our hearts again. We told him that we still have more work to do before we can bring Nora home, he seemed a little sad but understood that we can’t get her yet. What a sweet boy with a tender heart towards is baby sister.

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Generosity

God is faithful in more ways that we think. A friend that we haven’t seen in awhile texted to ask if I wanted her hand me down clothes for Nora. I excitedly replied “YES!” not knowing what a blessing we were in store for. It took Mom and I about 3 hours to sort the clothes, shoes, socks, tights and accessories that Sunday afternoon. I am so very thankful for her gift and want to know the crazy part? We have more clothes and gear on the way from our neighbor and my closest friend. Nora, you are going to be a spoiled lady.:)
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December 12, 2014 - 9:36 pm

Mom - Priceless gifts. We’re thankful and so happy for you all!!! ❤️

A trip to the bank

Reid and I spent the morning together at the dentist and the bank.  Before we left the house I told him we were going to put the money from the Sister jar into the bank and he wanted to bring the whole jar. After a successful trip to the dentist where they counted his teeth and took tooth pictures, we headed to the bank.

Reid was very excited to bring the sister jar into the bank.  As we were getting out of the van he said,” Mommy, we will bring this money into the bank and bring Nora home, right?” I explained that we have to have a nice lady come visit our family so that she can tell the agency that it’s safe to send Nora to our house, and then we can start talking to birth mommies until we find Nora. I also told him that we need to keep saving more money so that we can bring Nora home.  He told me that we should pray that she comes fast because he wants her to be home now, and then we walked into the bank.

He hopped up onto the counter (with my help) and handed the jar to the teller who looked a bit puzzled. We explained that we are adopting and this is the sister jar and told him how excited Reid was to bring the whole jar. He smiled and the girl working the drive thru window turned around also and thought it was sweet. We deposited $917 and got coin rolls for all of the change left in the sister jar.

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Oh sweet Nora, you are so very loved.

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What’s in a name?

I was going to wait to share the name we have chosen for our daughter, but Reid, being a very normal 4 year old, has been sharing her name with anyone he meets. We have had a girl name picked out since we found out we were pregnant with Reid. We didn’t know back then how special of a name it was…it carries even more meaning now knowing that our daughter will be adopted. She isn’t just getting a beautiful name, she’s also receiving a name with the heritage of her great-great grandmother and her two grandmothers, who love her very much.

Her name will be

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

nora

Nora means: Honor/light and Elaine means: Sun ray she will be our little honorable sunshine:)

Nora Boyhus Sorensen, my Mom’s namesake

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Nora Ann Gormley, my Mom

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Janet Elaine Martin, Steve’s Mom

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We also want to honor her birth momma, so if she has a name she wants to give her, Nora will have a second middle name. As you pray for our family, now you can add Nora to the list.

October 15, 2014 - 5:05 pm

Leah - Love it!! Can’t wait to see the sweet little face that will carry your family name!

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